5 Steps to Dating Like a SuperWoman

By Jackie Summers

You’re intelligent. You’re ambitious. You combine charisma and character, and command respect, all in your four inch stilettos. You can deflect BS off your magic bracelets, leap tall douche-bags in a single bound, and never lose your femininity. You’re a SuperWoman, you’re spectacular, and you’re single.

Okay, maybe that part about the magic bracelets only really exists in the comics. But just because you don’t have super powers doesn’t mean you can’t date like a hero. Here are five steps to help you date like a SuperWoman; mere mortals, please shield your eyes. 

Never Go Shopping When You’re Hungry
If you shop for food when you’re stomach is rumbling, everything in the supermarket looks good. Everything is appetizing when you’re dying of starvation.  If you’re hungry enough, you will eat  junk; things that are entirely devoid of nutritional content. Dating is similar, in that when you’re unhappy with who you are, you’re more likely to date junk, and conduct entire relationships that are devoid of emotional content. We all make better decisions about who to love when we aren’t starved for affection. Liking yourself is the start to being liked by someone, and being happy with who you are is the only way to become part of a happy couple. So before you go love someone else, fill up on love for yourself!

Pick Strawberries
It’s important to live and love with as little fear as possible. Life is short, and often painful.  You can’t predict the future and you can’t change the past. Try not to allow past pain or future uncertainty to keep you from enjoying the present.  Ideal circumstances rarely happen to people, but ideal people can happen to circumstances. Say and do the things that really matter to you today without hesitation, because you never know if you’re going to get another chance.  Your life is now. When strawberries present themselves, pick them.

Recognize Your Teachers
The Universe has a twisted sense of humor. Whatever blessing you ask of it, it will present you with the appropriate tools needed to develop in you the qualities you require to attain that which you seek.  Ask for love and The Universe will laugh, and whisper ‘Are you ready?’, knowing full well that you are not. It will scrape away your preconceptions, strip you down to your bare essence, and then it will point, and laugh.  The Universe wants you to become an individual worthy of it’s greatest gifts, so it will send you teachers. When relationships don’t work out, try to learn the lessons well enough not to repeat your mistakes, and then forget it all just enough to be open to making new mistakes. Remember, the Universe is preparing you to be part of something delicious.

Don’t Settle For Less than You Deserve
You accept only the highest standards for your job, your friends, your home. Why enforce a lower standard for your love life? Not everyone can afford a BMW, and not every man can be with you.  Be reasonable, be realistic, but never underestimate your intrinsic worth. The second you settle for less than you deserve, you deserve what you settled for.

Great Sex Reinforces Love
Great sex is to a relationship as oxygen is to air, in that it is a necessary, but not dominant component. Prolonged exposure to pure oxygen causes brain damage, but deprive the body of oxygen for even a few minutes and you’d die. Similarly, a relationship comprised of nothing but sex is ultimately toxic, but without it, relationships lose their fire and begin to die. Sexual chemistry is a powerful thing, so try to only form those kinds of bonds with someone you genuinely care for. The best sex in the world will isn’t reason enough to become romantically involved with someone who’s not right for you. Remember, it’s not what’s between your legs, it’s what’s between your ears.

How to Please Women in Bed

By Magic

  Women love good sex. In fact most women will stay in a bad relationship if the sex is good but will walk away if sexually unsatisfied. Most men  do not understand sexual needs of women. This is exactly the reason why we have studies which show that a small percent of men end up having sex with the majority of women. To be one of the few men you must learn how to please a women in bed.

Most people do not understand the importance of sex. Sex is the number one driving force for all romantic relationships. If it weren’t for sex we would prefer to stay alone and single. The topic of sex and how to please women needs thousands of pages. Here are three things that will surely help you stand out and have her craving for more sex with you.

1. Rough Sex: Most women enjoy rough sex. Love making and being sensual has its moments as well but nothing compared to rough bone crushing sex. On an average you should have 2 love making sessions for every 10 rough encounters. Rough sex makes women feel like you were losing control. Women see rough sex as a sign of passion for them. Most men are uncomfortable with this idea. Master the art of pleasing a women in bed and women will worship you.
2. Add variety: Many men practice wham bam bye bye mam.  They are boring and unoriginal. Most men usually like to please women in the bedroom night after night for sex. This gets boring soon. Get more creative. Next time have sex in the living room or kitchen sink. Sex outside of bedroom seems more spontaneous. Women enjoy that feeling. Add foreplay, mix it with quickies and occasional fetishes. You now have a satisfying sex life that most women enjoy.
3. Multiple Orgasms: Most men don’t care whether  woman have achieved orgasm or not. I confess to being guilty of this myself. Make sure your woman always gets an orgasm. Try giving her more than one orgasm, if not more. There are lots of resources online that can teach you how to make this possible. Multiple orgasms are the key to pleasing women in the bedroom.

Spend some time watching videos on sex education. Read some books on women’s body. Do not hesitate to communicate with your sex partner to have better sex. These few measures will drastically improve your sex life.

(Credits: Image by joanna8555)

World Peace, Part 3

By Jackie Summers

The true man wants two things: danger and play. For that reason he wants woman, as the most dangerous plaything~~Friedrich Nietzsche

If this is true, women are the ultimate weapon. We shouldn’t be bombing the fuck out of our enemies, we should be fucking the bomb out of them. Strategy dictates the best way to defeat an adversary is to make them a friend; can you think of a better way to accomplish this? Male hyper-aggressive tendencies come from an excess of testosterone, so if you want us to stop fighting, fuck us.

And then make us a sandwich, please.

Let’s do a quick summary. In World Peace part 1, we established that great sex reinforces love. In World Peace part 2, men were admonished to make a woman feel safe and beautiful, and provide constant mental stimulation, to make the bedroom boil. Ladies, today it’s your turn. Contrary to what you’ve been told, showing up naked is insufficient. Put down your Cosmo and pick up your notepads, because today we’re going to address how women can contribute to world peace.

Speak up
Not long ago, a good female friend confided in me that she was disappointed in her new lover’s sexual performance. When I asked how he responded to her dismay, she confessed she’d said nothing, out of fear of hurting his feelings. I asked her frankly what was more important: protecting his fragile ego, or her sexual satisfaction?

When I was still a teenager, I was fortunate enough to have a lover inform me in no uncertain terms, how utterly pathetic I was in bed. This may have been the greatest act of kindness any woman has ever done for me. I swore a silent oath to myself to become a lover ‘ne plus ultra;’from that day forward, even if I was with a woman only once, I wanted to be a smile on her face when she was old and grey that her grandchildren wouldn’t understand. With my ego utterly destroyed, I was free to learn about myself, and about a woman’s body; I became versed in all manner of ancient Tantric technique. However, the most important lesson she taught me was this: it is the responsibility of the individual to inform (and if necessary, instruct) their partner the in best ways to please them.

How to broach the subject of unsatisfactory sexual performance is a matter of delicacy and diplomacy. When dealing with egos, I highly recommend the ‘Red Ball Maneuver.’ Visualize whatever issues you need to discuss with your partner, and form them into a small, red rubber ball that fits into the palm of your hand. Now, imagine yourself throwing it as hard as you can at his face. The reaction you’re likely to receive is anger, defensiveness, retaliation, and a fractured ego. Now take that same red ball, smile, say ‘here, catch,’ and gently toss it in your partner’s direction. Words tend to be received in the spirit they are given. Compliments are important but, honesty is more important. Men can’t hear what you don’t say.

Cultivate tension
Relationships are a constant cycle of conflict and resolution. As counter-intuitive as this might sound, it’s necessary, as without a level of tension there can be no release. This may be the trickiest aspect a woman can master in her quest to become a masterful lover, as you need to know how to create tension without becoming contentious.

It’s a common fallacy to believe that men want docile women, but nothing could be further from the truth. Here is where the myth that men love bitches is born, in that the woman who challenges you also presents you with the opportunity to assert yourself. Conversely, the mystique of the bad boy; there is something innately seductive about the person who manages to ignore your obvious charms. We want to overcome, and be overcome by, that which resists us.

Unfortunately, too many people of both genders end up in unhealthy situations, mistakenly buying into the misconception that strife equals excitement. It is possible to create healthy cycles of tension based on heightened and prolonged states of arousal. Ladies, by all means be loving, be kind, be compassionate; you’re the softer side of us. But never underestimate the power of discreet, utter inappropriateness. Combine your high sex drive with low inhibitions, and be his fantasy; become his porn. Forever emblazoned in memory is the girlfriend who once, with the sweetness of an angel, asked me if we could forego a night of lovemaking, and asked instead if I could ‘just fuck her, really hard.’

Let a man be a man
Once long ago, men were warriors. We hunted, we provided; in a world where humans lacked claws, fangs or even fur, through sheer force of will we became the dominant species on the planet. Thousands of years of animal instincts remain, despite an absolute dearth of appropriate opportunities to engage them.

Our survival still depends on the ability to channel aggression, but we’ve been pacified, emasculated. We’re asked to be kinder, gentler, softer; in modern society all manner of outright aggression is frowned upon. Add to this long overdue opportunities for gender equality in education and subsequently, occupation. Today’s women are stronger, smarter, and more gainfully employed than any generation in history. Frequently women out-earn their parters, and men are no longer needed as providers.

Speaking in behalf of Alpha Males everywhere, we’re okay with this, honestly. A true Alpha in no way feels threatened by a woman who is his equal or better; in fact it’s quite the opposite. Few things are more arousing than being desired by somebody who doesn’t need you. Power remains the greatest aphrodisiac, and nothing is sexier than a woman who is secure enough in her sensuality, to acquiesce. Today’s powerful woman has the opportunity to privately reclaim the femininity she sheds of necessity in public life, behind closed doors. The boudoir thus becomes the final bastion for bestial behavior.

Let’s be perfectly clear about this: in no way am I endorsing the subjugation of any woman on any level, anywhere, ever. Any man who forces himself upon a woman without her consent has forfeit his right to live. Therein lies the crux: the person with the power to grant or rescind permission is, ultimately, in control. Ladies, you always have final authority sexually. We require your permission, stated or tacit, to be savages. There’s power in surrender, and the woman who can toss her hair back, cast a knowing look over her shoulder, and whisper ‘take me,’ is in for the kind of ravaging suitable from a modern man reclaiming his forsaken right to masculinity.

If we all put that amount of energy into becoming better lovers, would there be any time or reason left for war?

DATING AND SEX

By Lisa Skye Carle

There are many “pros” and “cons” about having sex with people you are dating. I’d like to throw out a few “pros” and “cons” to stir up a conversation.

 

“Pros” :  

1. sex is often really HOT with someone new
2. it’s good to know if you are sexually compatible before committing to a relationship
3. just thinking about the possibility of sex with a new partner is very exciting
4. did I mention that it is fun and really hot!!

“Cons” :   

 
1. you really “should” have the safer sex conversation - can be awkward!
2. sex can bring up difficult feelings and insecurities - “am I hot enough…”
3. you can get attached to someone who isn’t really right for you
4. the first time (or more!) with a new partner can be awkward and anxiety producing - both men and women can have “performance anxiety”
5. If you are sexually active with multiple partners, how do you decide to disclose or not?

Credits: Image by kyz 

How To Kiss the First Time You Meet a Girl

By Magic

Most men are unsure how to initiate the first kiss. Before you can kiss a girl you need to find out if she is ready to kiss you.

There are a few tests you can use to find out if she is ready to establish a romantic and sexual relationship with you:

1. Look into her eyes and gently stroke her hair or run your fingers through her hair.
2. Hold her hands and gently squeeze them.
3. Brush her arm.

If she responds positively to two of the three then she is ready to be kissed. She does not have to return the favor or participate to show compliance. As long as she does not raise an objection, walk away or discourage touching her, you can safely conclude that she is ready to be kissed.

At this point:

1. Take a step towards her or slowly pull her towards you. 
2. Look into her eyes.
3. Slowly lean forward and gently kiss her on the lips.

It is always better to give her a quick peck first, then go for a longer kiss.

You do not have to pull back and return for the longer kiss. You can stay in the kiss position after the peck and go back for a longer kiss if she does not pull back. Though, you can always pull back and return again for the kiss.

Once in a while the girl may get surprised that you tried to kiss her. She may even pull back at that point. This does not, necessarily, mean that she does not want to get romantically involved with you. Neither does it mean that she does not want to be kissed by you.

It’s just that she was not prepared for the kiss or she did not see it coming. I call it a “shock factor”. Sometimes we do not send strong or clear signals that we desire a sexual/romantic relationship with the girl. Hence the girl is either confused or not expecting a kiss. 

If you do the above three tests, it will reduce the chances of a girl not knowing your intentions. 

If the girl pulls back but does not protest or vocalize her objection to your kiss, then it is a good sign. If she does not walk away and continue to participate in the conversation, then you can assume she was not ready for the kiss earlier. 

Test it again by looking in her eyes, stroking her hair and brushing her arms. If she missed these signals the first time, she surely will notice them this time. 

If she still does not object to any of your touches, you can go in for the kiss again. You will succeed in kissing her this time.

Here are a few extra tips:

• Make sure your breath smells good. Have a piece of gum before you go for the kiss, but make sure to spit it out before you kiss. 
• Don’t freak the girl out by saying “I love you” right after the kiss. It is too soon to say these words. 
• Shave your face if you plan to go for the kiss. You don’t want to scratch her face. 
• Try to kiss her in private and not in front of her friends when you kiss her for the first time. 
• Don’t get upset if she rejects you. Don’t try to convince her or argue with her. 
• You can make things a bit more romantic by holding her hands or hold her on the hips when kissing. 
• Whisper something in her ears and go back for another kiss. Make it a long one this time. She will surely enjoy it.
• Try playing with her hair. Most girls love it.
• Try not to wait for the end of the night or for the goodbye moment to initiate the first kiss. It is too clichéd. 
• Act normal after you kiss her. Make sure not to make things awkward or go into silence, so continue talking. 

(Credits: Image by lastquest)