Eff the Fear

By Samantha Scholfield
I spent this last weekend at various parties and one very fun beer festival (as you do when the 4th creates a three-day weekend). Because I’m a dating writer and coach, the subject of dating inevitably comes up in conversation and so, much of my weekend was spent (happily) listening to the dating issues faced by both sexes. I heard lots of the normal “I never meet anyone”, “All the good ones are taken” and “What’s with all the crazy bitches / douchebags I keep running into?” But the number one stated by both sexes? “The people I want to talk to never come and talk to me.” 

Obviously this begs the question as to why we don’t initiate conversation ourselves more often, to which the answer is usually some version of: “That freaks me out”, “I don’t know how” or “I want them to make the first move.” Every guy I talked to this last weekend said that they’d love for a girl to initiate conversation, and every girl I talked to complained that guys don’t initiate conversation often enough.  From that, the solution would appear to be that we should all just talk to each other more. Unfortunately, it’s not that simple. There are egos, fragile feelings and fear to contend with when we think about talking to someone we like, and much more often than not, those things prevent us from actually pursuing that hot guy/girl and instead leave us with some nice fodder for the next time we’re bored and want to fantasize.  

However, if we all take a deep breath, let go of our fear, and — the next time we’re in the same vicinity as an available cute someone — talk to them, we might be surprised at our success. Sure, it’s not going to work every time, and yeah, our egos may take the occasional hit, but in the end if it works out with one of the people we talk to, that’s one more person than we knew than before. Letting fear rule — fear of failure, fear of rejection and fearing that we don’t know how — isn’t how I bet the vast majority of us want to live our lives. So eff fear in the name of reducing the number of dating complaints: talk to the next person you think is cute. 

Yours in sunshine and rainbows, S

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The Biggest Myths Of Pick Up Part-2

By Magic

Last week I mentioned few myths of pickup community. I could continue with the list but I guess it is time to move on.   

In this post, I’m going to reveal a few things you should start using right away to skyrocket your success with women.  

I know no one is interested to practice the general stuff or work on areas of life that are not directly related to pick up skills. As a coach my job is to give you the right information and not the information you think will work.  

You have to take my word that your skills and techniques are incomplete without the following information below.    

It’s like having the greatest car and the most powerful engine on the market but with no air in the tires…   

Some of the stuff below might seem daunting, but trust me that it does not take long to master and see results from. After live coaching and you will have a great control of these elements which act as a catalyst to generate massive amounts of attraction. 

T.E.A.S.E  

Tonality, Eye Contact, Animation, Sexual Escalation and Energy are the most powerful components to demonstrate power, confidence, dominance and stability.   

If you can master the right level of T.E.A.S.E you will have no problem opening and controlling groups of women. In fact T.E.A.S.E is so powerful that women will start opening you when you display them at the right level.  

Positivity  

Negativity is public enemy number one! If you are negative in general it will come across in your attitude. A positive person feels happy within and spreads positivity. Positivity is contagious and it makes people feel good: man, woman or child. As a result when women see a secure man in you they relax around you.

Be Social

Most students of pickup are not social. They go out only to pick up women. They would never waste time socializing but focus on the mission to pick up chicks. Do the opposite. Be social.   

Take interest in people and their lives. Explore what they find beautiful about their life, work and hobbies. Practice this for a little while and soon you will become natural conversationalist and a charmer. You won’t need any routines. People will enjoy your company and onlookers will see you as the life of the party. Your value will go up and you will get laid like a rock star, along with some other important skills that will contribute.  

Stop Acting Desperate  

I meet these men who are super desperate about women. All they can do is talk about women. They spend hours on the internet stalking women’s profiles on social media sites. Every few minutes they will show you some woman’s photo and talk about how hot she is. The only conversation they can have is about some hot chick that they wanted to bang or they wish they could bang so and so.   

Now all of us talk about women and our desires but if that piece dominates the majority of your conversation you are too desperate and it will reflect in your conversation with women. Relax and take it easy.Start playing sports, build some hobby, develop some interest and start talking other things. Get a life.   

Focus On Lifestyle  

Most students of pick up treat bars, clubs and shopping malls as a mecca for seduction. Their sole focus is to visit these places to approach women. Think different.   

Instead of focusing all your energy to visit these places to meet women start building a lifestyle that is rich with women. Build a social circle and participate in activities that draw women to you and you will never have to leave your house to meet women.   

Seducing women is way easier in a social circle and any environment outside of bars and clubs. Why focus on the tough road?   

You may not find the kind of women you want in your neighborhood bars or at least lot of them at one time. Your social circle or activity can ensure you meet multiple women that meet your standards at any given time. Use bars and clubs as practice grounds then build a lifestyle to draw women to you. Seduce them with your newly discovered skill set.  

Mindset  

Focus on building the right mindset and approach to dating. Most schools out there position dating women as a hard and rough adventure. Dating and seduction is easier than driving a stick shift if you have the right mindset. Dating is normal and natural.   

Why would anyone be single when they can be with a partner? Why would someone not talk to a woman who they find attractive? Why would anyone not try to sleep with a woman who they find sexy?   

Desiring women and making an effort to have them is normal and natural adult male behavior. No need to shy away from it. Women want you to approach and seduce them but they also want you to do it right.  

Watch a movie called “Hang ‘Em High” with Clint Eastwood.   

In the movie there is a scene when Clint tries to kiss the woman. When she turns her face around instead of feeling rejected he probes as to why the woman did not go for the kiss. He assumes that it was only natural for them to kiss and something must be wrong that she refused to kiss. So he leans back and simply asks “what’s the matter” and we finally find out that she was raped and is now weary of men. Yes attraction and seduction is natural. What is more natural is acting on your attraction for a particular woman and trying to make her yours.  

Yes, build the right mindset and seduction will become easy.  

Talk soon,

Magic

Lead Coach

+1 (352) 432-8464

www.attractionmethods.com

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Traits Of A Real Man!

By Magic

When I started learning how to attract women for myself, I used to focus on “techniques” and “tricks”.

As I started to learn more, I began to realize that “Inner Game” was actually more important than my “Outer Game”.

I know you have heard me say this many times.

The woman who trained me said something and INSTANTLY I had a BIG “Ah Ha!” moment.

It led me to unlock the BIGGEST mysteries of all time. This information gave me the EDGE to attract women. I started approaching this in new light. I started working on transforming into a guy who “NATURALLY” attracts women.

I now believe FIRMLY that women can sense INSTANTLY whether you have your “Inner Game” together. There are lots of small body language and tonality cues that women read. These cues tell them how much of a “Real Man” you are.

And I believe that most women are FAR more attracted to men who seem “masculine” than

they are to men who seem like “wussies”.

Don’t believe me? 

Go out right now and stop the first woman you see. Ask her if she would prefer dating men who appear “masculine” or otherwise.

Now you don’t need to go out and transform into Arnold Schwarzenegger. In fact many women do not find body builders to be attractive or masculine.

I know now I sound like I had too much LSD but no I am not hallucinating. Let me explain to you…

When women say they like masculine or strong men they are referring to PERSONALITY TRAITS as opposed to physical. 

The way you make eye contact, the way you touch women, how soon you get sexual, your tonality and body language while speaking reveal how CONFIDENT and STRONG you are within.

A confident and a strong man makes EXTENDED EYE CONTACT with women. 

He TOUCHES women upon meeting them. He continues to touch because he finds beautiful women IRRESISTIBLE. 

He is not afraid to GET SEXUAL. 

He uses OPEN BODY LANGUAGE.

Next time you meet women apply these basic principles. You will INSTANTLY come across as a “STRONG-MASCULINE” guy. 

Women will then CRAVE for your attention and ENJOY your company. They will FLIRT back.

Sometimes a woman will test you by playing hard to get or try to be more aggressive. 

Look straight into her eyes and let her know that you are the MAN in this interaction. Don’t fall for her act. Don’t be afraid to seduce and get sexual because she is not showing enough interest. 

Real men enjoy company of beautiful women. They do everything in their power to win a woman they find attractive.

This is the mark of a “REAL MAN” and this is what every woman SECRETLY desires in her mate.

Enjoy, and I’ll talk to you again soon. 

Your Friend, 

Magic.

(Credits: Image by Mark Sadowski)

It Is Ok To Be A Man

By Magic

Last week I went to Las Vegas with a couple friends to celebrate my birthday. We went to the bar at MGM hotel to meet women. There was this one particular woman who was having her bachelorette party. One of my friends started talking to her and later called me to join the group.

I started teasing the bride to be and in no time she was totally attracted to me. She was chasing me and opening me when I would distance myself. She was holding me, hugging me, I was licking her ears and what not. I could have totally closed her that night if I wanted to. The truth is she was the kind of woman I would want in my life and I still didn’t close her.

I didn’t close her because I have done that in the past and have sour memories. The story I am about to share with you is not the brightest moment of my dating life. In fact it is one I am little embarrassed and ashamed of. Nonetheless I am still sharing it with you so we all can benefit from my experience.

Few years back I was in a similar situation in New York. I met this woman who was a bride to be and I convinced her to call off her wedding which she did. After dating for a while we realized we were not suited for each other. I felt guilty and horrible because I made her call off her wedding and now we won’t be together either. 

I know it was not my fault because it was a mutual decision. I also know that she probably was not ready for her marriage else she would not have called it off on my account.  I still feel partly responsible. 

This is the reason I decided to hold myself back when I met this woman in Vegas. I liked her but didn’t take action because I was not a 100% sure.

Human beings are emotional creatures. In cases of love and romance we mostly act on our emotions and not principals. If we like someone we don’t care about anything or anyone else. We don’t worry about consequences either. We simply act on our emotions.

No matter what the situation, you should always take a chance. Most men are worried about a woman having a boyfriend and here I am sleeping with a woman who is about to get married and licking ears of another in similar situation. I have made out with women in front of their boyfriends. Read reviews on my website. I have had a woman sleep with me leaving her boyfriend, by himself, in a hotel room. This is after he had traveled thousands of miles from Europe to be with her. 

I am not telling these stories to brag about my conquests but to motivate you to act on your desires and stop making excuses. You will be surprised with the outcomes. If you truly feel for a woman, make a move instead of cowarding away. You are a man and there is no reason for you to be ashamed of your desire for a woman.

Look man I love women and love spending time with them. Women are not conquests for me. I have never counted how many women I have slept with. Women give me energy. Their love makes me feel rich. Every woman has something different and new to offer. When a woman agrees to sleep with me I feel thankful that she is willing to partner with me. I feel good that she trusts me and is willing to create some personal and intimate moments with me. Some end up in one night stands and some end up in relationships depending on how we both feel.

I sleep with women because I feel possessed. I crave for their company, touch and love. Women notice this about me instantly. This makes them feel loved, complemented and desired. My passion makes women feel wanted. Women recognize that out of my passion I have no choice other than acting on my desire to make them mine. This is what makes them want to be with me.

The question is how does one become this person? How does one convey this personality to women he meets on regular basis without coming across as needy?

This is where your mindset and belief system comes in. I see so many guys relying on pick up lines and routines to seduce women. 

Men in today’s society are afraid of being men. They are afraid to approach women and seduce, them let alone getting sexual with them. Most men fear something bad is going to happen if a woman finds out about their intentions. So they keep talking about every God damn thing on this planet, without revealing their intentions. As a consequence their interactions with women rarely transform into sexual relationship.

When a woman asks me if I am trying to get into her pants I answer: “yes but not just yet”. When they say let’s just be friends, I reply: “sure but know that I am gonna try to get into your pants. You are a woman your job is to resist. I am a man and my job is to persist. I have enough social skills to not make it awkward but know that this will happen”.

I wonder what else does a woman desire. I have asked women on numerous occasions if they would rather go home with no guy approaching them or would they rather go home with 20 weird, awkward, shy guys approaching and making them feel desired. What do you think? 

Which human being on this planet leaves the house hoping no one tells them that they are sexy and desirable? Why would you not approach a woman and make her feel sexy and desired. You are actually doing a favor to women by telling them they are desired. Talk to any woman in her late thirties and she will tell you how she misses the attention that she used to get 10 years back.

So the first advice I have for you is to become a man. Stop being afraid and ashamed of your desire to sleep with women. You are not doing anything wrong. There is nothing wrong about a man desiring a woman. You are a straight man who gets attracted to women, I don’t know what law of universe you break with this.  

Next learn the right attitude and form the correct belief system that will draw women to you. This is the most important factor behind my success with women. 

My desire for women makes me not worry about rejection. A woman once asked me if I ever got slapped by another woman because I am so sexually aggressive. I answered: “not yet but I would never approach a woman who is not worth a slap”. Guess what? I ended up sleeping with this woman the same night.

There is lot of poor information circulating on the web and preached by so called “pick up gurus”. Be very careful whose information you put to use. I have had clients who had suffered serious damages as a consequence of taking the advice given by these phony gurus. 

Read Social Mastery EBook or sign up for one of our live training session. See how you will get instant and life transforming results from our coaching. 3 out of 4 students that I trained last year ended up sleeping with women within 1 week of training if not during the training itself. I must be doing something right.

No woman can resist a strong, confident man. If you believe that what you are doing is natural and real, women will see it as well. If you have the right attitude you will sleep with almost every woman you meet because a man like you is almost impossible to find. There is not a single day I don’t hear women say “no one has ever said this to me before” or “no other man has made me feel like this before”. I even get compliments from women after almost every talk I give at dating events and seminars.

So stop worrying about what people think of you and start acting as a man. Go out and approach two women tonight. Show your interest in them as a man. Your interaction may not end up with anything sexual because you still don’t have all the tools yet to seduce a woman. But you will feel good and liberated when you reveal your intentions. You will feel like a man and you feel in control. This in itself makes it worth approaching women and getting sexual with them.

In the meanwhile have a good weekend and start flirting with every woman you meet.

Good Luck!

-Magic

(Credits: Image by tibchris)