The Trick of Dating

By My So Called Love Life

What I’m listening to: “I’m only going to break your heart” by Taio Cruz

Hello Pickv community, as the weather changes as does my dating situation. Sweet fireman has been sending me texts inviting me out and I can just feel the “please!” in each text. I just don’t have the heart to tell him, ”no, really it’s me not you!”  I hate saying or hearing that sorry for an excuse, over played reason. So, instead sweet fireman I bet feels very sorry for this over scheduled girl; since I gave him any and every reason not to meet up (except for I have to wash my hair).

Dr. ego, after our first date, was very attentive about checking the pulse of our blooming “relationship.” No sign of malpractice was in sight and Dr. ego was being the utmost professional, until he made a trip to southern California. This brought out the dark side of  my “perfect” Doctor. After a very pathetic attempt of a Skype conversation, I concluded that he had lost interest and was still on a high of some girl he met down there. This was Monday, by Saturday evening close to midnight I received a very surprising Skype from you guessed it Dr. ego “hey, what are you up to?” Confused and a little hoping he had been in a comma for the week, I replied with a very calm and collected “hey not much.” Ya I know I didn’t really “give” it to him, but hey I was willing to hear out the guy; I’m a reasonable person…phones fall into toilets, laptops can explode, and an orphanage in some remote village in Haiti can always use an on call doctor, right?

So, Doctor ego very bluntly told me that he was offered a job down in Southern California and was moving down there in two weeks. He admitted he hadn’t attempted to contact me sooner because he didn’t know how to handle the situation. So, ignoring me really makes it even more ok? Honestly, I had written him off as that guy…after only the one thing your mother warns you about that boys want. Fine, some boys are like that. Though, this is worse; not only did he say he didn’t want me to become too attached but he didn’t want to break my heart. (so thoughtful this guy, right?) Well, I gently explained to him that my heart is fully intact, and he hadn’t even put a scrape on it. No bandage needed, but thanks for the extra follow up exam. So, then he proceeds to ask me if I wanted to come over for a massage. This guy has boulders here, now I remember how he got his nickname. I told him there was no way I would be a  booty(Skype) call. This must have chipped at his very large ego since he went on to say, that I wasn’t even experienced enough for him. Sorry Dr. ego, I didn’t know you were so delicate or so slutty… 

So, exit Dr. ego and enter Mr. Houdini. Mr. Houdini is the master of making himself disappear at the most surprising moments and at one big swoop of his wand he reappears with a great applause and a gasp of the crowd. Mr. Houdini  and I have been “seeing” each other for a couple of months. Every time I say well that was a great show where’s my parking ticket? He comes back for an encore performance. We both agreed to a non-committal commitment. Meaning, I’ll see you when I see you kid. This keeps our dates fun, exciting, and frustrating for the both of us. He is very good with his magical seduction, but when it comes down to it, it’s all screen and mirrors and the “fun” stuff in a relationship. Mere distractions to the meat and potatoes of the real meal.  Is casual dating cheating? Am I just having my desert and ignoring the real good meals out there?  Does it always have to be between cupcakes or roast beef?

While we ponder these questions I’ll be heading to Las Vegas where there is always a buffet for everyones’ cravings.

(Credits: Images by free2beesmees)

The Sweet and Sour

By My So Called Love Life

What I’m listening to: Lady Gaga (of course)  

As it’s the first time meeting me fellow Pickv’s, I will let you know a bit about myself. I work in promotions here at Pickv.com. I am the one who is going to try to make it out to all of those singles events. So if there is some major singling and mingling I will be there! 

Also, I am single myself, so is any one out there on the look out for a nerdy blonde girl who may or may not blog about our date? ;)  We’ll get back to that in a second. 

So, talking about first impressions… I myself had a couple of first encounters this week. 

I had two dates this week. One was with a sweet Fireman that was smoking hot and I can only imagine how he looks in his fire suit. Though, the chemistry was not even a fire hazard. Our date was sweet, we met at a frozen yogurt shop. I do have to say our conversation felt artificial and unsweetened. We talked about our family, work, and school. Though, there were some sparks of hope. Especially when the topic of music came up. He asked me who I was currently listening to at the moment. Since, I am unashamed to say Lady Gaga has been ruthlessly been put on repeat on my Itunes. I blurted it out like I was a musical rebel. Though, I know Lady Gaga has been everyones’ sweet addiction these days. He smiled and gave me a high five. Sadly, his response was a little to complacent. He said he listens to everything. This marked him in the box of people pleaser. Way to hose down my hope Fireman. I know I shouldn’t be so judgmental, but how can I like you when you don’t even know what YOU like. I like people who are passionate about themselves, this means being passionate about the foods they choose, the music they play on the long commute to work, that book that changed their life, or the movie that brought luster back into their souls.  

If you don’t have passion for life, why would I want to be passionate about you? 

So on to my second date with Doctor ego. Doctor ego looks great on paper. He’s smart, funny, and oh so good looking. I would definitely put on make up for my Doctor’s appointment with him. If Doctor McSteamy on Grey’s Anatomy had a little brother it would be Doctor ego. Doctor ego and I met at a frozen yogurt shop too (different yogurt places from mine and the Fireman’s). When I first saw him he made my stomach jump up with excitement. The conversation was light, he made me laugh and made me wonder. Though, a guy like this could be just playing me or he could be really interested. The worst part is he knows his best attributes and his worst. Yet why am I drawn to this man that is full of cockiness? Fireman was sweet and polite, where Doctor ego said whatever was on his mind, even if it wasn’t within the dating guidelines of proper etiquette. He knows what he likes; he likes The Killers which I had blasting in my “hoopty” Ford Taurus all through High School. He wants to take me out to Indian or Mexican food. My two top foods I want to have with me if I ever had to eat only two ethnic dishes until the end of time. Is this a match made in killer Bollywood movies heaven? Hmmm… stay tuned, from my experience on watching Grey’s Anatomy McSteamy is a real heart breaker….

(Credits: Image by sphilp1225)