What Women Want

By Magic

Women are not looking for a specific personality in a man and each woman is attracted to different, ever-evolving qualities. Just like women, men go through different phases where the type of woman to whom they are attracted changes. Attraction to body type, hair, personality, features, etc. changes. Many men, including myself, have varying definitions on what is attractive in a woman. One day I may be into a blonde; the next a brunette. I may desire large breasts, long legs, or a curvy shape. On some days there isn‘t a particular preference and every person goes through these natural changes.

Women experience the same evolution. One day she may want a skinny rocker, the next a body builder. She may want a man with a wild side in her twenties and become more attracted to a conservative personality in her thirties.

Do not build your personality based upon what you think is attractive to the opposite sex. You should be yourself, do what makes you feel good, and do what you like. Your looks and personality should be for you and should match what‘s inside you, be infused with what allows you to meet your personal goals –called congruence. Incongruence –the opposite of congruence –is a sign of insecurity and a complete turn off for women. It is guaranteed that there will be many women attracted to your body and personality type. Be comfortable in your skin and the women will follow.

However there are certain traits that spark attraction in women. There are the traits that every Casanova possesses. You do not have to possess all of these traits but try to incorporate as many as you can without completely altering your lifestyle. This will make seduction much easy.

Here is the list of some very important traits that attract women:

• Confidence
• Exceptional grooming
• Humor
• Humility
• Being a challenge
• Creativity
• Boldness
• Thoughtful
• Laid back
• Social
• Positive Attitude

If you could incorporate these traits in your lifestyle and display without being too obvious, you will successfully turn on women’s attraction switches.

(Credits: Image by Niccolò Caranti)

Stand Out From The Crowd and Get a Reply

By Samantha Scholfield

Online dating can be fun, it can blow, and it can fall somewhere in between — all depending on how often your carefully crafted emails receive replies. Here are some tips to up that percentage and make every time you log onto your dating account a positive experience.

• Be honest on your profile. If you’re a grand-master King in your local LARP-ing league, shout it out. If you’re looking for someone to volunteer with at the local animal shelter and keep things casual, spell it out. If you’re ready to get married within the next 60 days and you’re desperately seeking a fellow Jimmy Buffet fan who loves piña coladas, hates yoga and loves getting caught in the rain, make it known. Passion and authenticity are sexy. Plus, the more honest and interesting you are, the more reason you give someone to email you. 

• Be original with your subject lines.Avoid the standard “Hi”, “What’s up?” or “You’re hot.” These are a dime a dozen in in-boxes and in all likelihood, won’t get a click. We’re all looking for that interesting, funny, awesome person to spend time with, and interesting, funny, awesome people don’t say “‘Sup” in their subject lines. For example, one of the best subject lines I’ve seen in my dating inbox is “Synesthete seeking mango-hater”. I’m deathly allergic to mangoes so clearly he’d read my profile (always a plus), and the synesthesia thing was an interesting, stand-out angle. 

• Use awesome pictures.The goal is to come up with 5-7 pictures of you that illustrate your life, including at least one close-up one that shows off your handsomeness to the max. You’ve got a great dog? Give Fido some love and use a picture of you two together — the happier-looking the better. Love going to costume parties? Post your favorite trekkie themed party picture of you and your five closest friends (being sure to point out which one is you, of course). The point is, when potential dates arestalking you checking out your profile to see what information they can glean about how normal you are, the more information you can give them to prove you’re a functional, friendly human being, the better. One caveat - avoid pictures with just you and your ex. Not only will this cause a flurry of questioning on the part of the person looking at your profile (Is he over her?), but you’re on the dating site to move forward and meet new people, not show off how hot your ex was.

Bottom line, use your profile as a tool to give the best, most honest picture of you as possible. If your top three bands are Hanson, Radiohead and Thrice and your favorite movie is “Anacondas”, you’re going to greatly up your chances of meeting a fellow Hanson/Radiohead/Thrice/Anacondas lover if you’re true to yourself on your profile. 

Until next time, yours in best-foot-forward-honesty, S

(Photo: Credits by Photomish Dan)