What Women Want

By Magic

Women are not looking for a specific personality in a man and each woman is attracted to different, ever-evolving qualities. Just like women, men go through different phases where the type of woman to whom they are attracted changes. Attraction to body type, hair, personality, features, etc. changes. Many men, including myself, have varying definitions on what is attractive in a woman. One day I may be into a blonde; the next a brunette. I may desire large breasts, long legs, or a curvy shape. On some days there isn‘t a particular preference and every person goes through these natural changes.

Women experience the same evolution. One day she may want a skinny rocker, the next a body builder. She may want a man with a wild side in her twenties and become more attracted to a conservative personality in her thirties.

Do not build your personality based upon what you think is attractive to the opposite sex. You should be yourself, do what makes you feel good, and do what you like. Your looks and personality should be for you and should match what‘s inside you, be infused with what allows you to meet your personal goals –called congruence. Incongruence –the opposite of congruence –is a sign of insecurity and a complete turn off for women. It is guaranteed that there will be many women attracted to your body and personality type. Be comfortable in your skin and the women will follow.

However there are certain traits that spark attraction in women. There are the traits that every Casanova possesses. You do not have to possess all of these traits but try to incorporate as many as you can without completely altering your lifestyle. This will make seduction much easy.

Here is the list of some very important traits that attract women:

• Confidence
• Exceptional grooming
• Humor
• Humility
• Being a challenge
• Creativity
• Boldness
• Thoughtful
• Laid back
• Social
• Positive Attitude

If you could incorporate these traits in your lifestyle and display without being too obvious, you will successfully turn on women’s attraction switches.

(Credits: Image by Niccolò Caranti)

How to solve the “what the hell am I going to wear on my first date” conundrum

By Scherry Momin

You guys know the drill, boy meets girl, etc, etc, boy asks girl out (or vice versa)… that’s right…now you’re getting ready for your first date.   

First dates are super awkward as is.  Don’t let a bad outfit exacerbate the situation.  Yes, it matters.   A bad outfit will definitely be more starkly noticed by your date than a muted, more mainstream outfit.  You want to be remembered for you, not for your bad wardrobe choices.   People judge.  It happens.  

Not to worry!  With these simple steps, you’ll be bang-a-licious in no time.   

Step 1: Analyze the date environment 

When considering wardrobe for your first date, make sure you dress for the occasion.  A Sunday afternoon stroll in Dolores Park vs. a Thursday night dinner at Delphina definitely calls for two different types of outfits.  Think about what would be an appropriate look for the occasion.   A Sunday afternoon park stroll would call for something casual chic, while a dinner date might call for something more elegant. 

Step 2: Consider Comfort 

Wear something you’re comfortable in!  Girls, that includes heels.  There’s nothing more obnoxious to a guy than having to either listen to his date complain about her feet hurting or watch his date be in pain.  Plus, you should always be prepared to walk.  You never know where you’ll find parking.   Wear heels that you’ve broken in and know are comfortable.  You’ll seriously ruin everything if you spend the entire evening complaining about your aching feet or thinking about them.   Aside from shoes, your entire outfit should be comfortable.  The more comfortable you are, the more confident you’ll feel.  Confidence shows and your date will definitely notice.   

Step 3: Your personality is important.  So integrate it into your outfit.  

Clothes are fun!  I completely disagree with other fashion dating bloggers who say to “not wear anything too trendy” on the first date.  You should wear something that tells someone something about your personality.  If you’re a clothing whore, then by all means wear something super trendy.  Who cares if he/she appreciates it or not?  The important thing is, you’ll feel good in it – so wear it.  Plus, your clothes could end up being great conversation pieces.  If you’re not a clothing whore, not to worry, you can still integrate your personality into your clothes through proper accessorizing.  If you’re into tennis, wearing a tennis charm necklace or charm bracelet could spark interest about your hobbies.   

Step 4:  Look like you belong in 2010 (unless you’re going to an 80s rave…then by all means shoulder pad it up).   

It is 2010.  I don’t care if you have to pick up this month’s GQ or Cosmo to get an idea of how people dress these days.   Girls, just a quick news flash for those of you returning from the 90s, the following items are OUT: wide leg pants, boot cut jeans, pretty pointy toed boots, big bags, A lined skirts, and short and fitted t-shirts.  Some modern alternatives to these items which I highly recommend investing in are:  skinny jeans, military style/utility boots, small clutches, bandage skirts, and long loose fitting t-shirts.  

Step 5:  Go easy on the makeup and the perfume.   

Oh makeup.  Makeup is fun, and a huge part of fashion.  However, if you look like you could be working the next shift at Asia SF, your date will not be turned on.   For a first date, go easy on the makeup and let your date see you.  Sporting the model off-duty look is way sexier than looking like you should be in the next Lady GaGa video – although that would be super awesome for a fun weekend night out.   

Step 6:  Slutty isn’t as attractive as you think.  

Don’t do slutty on a first date.  Just don’t do it.  You’ll give the impression that you just wanna bang and possibly miss out on the opportunity to really get to know someone.  Also a little news flash: GUYS ARE HORNY.  They won’t focus on you if you’re dressed overtly sexually.   I’m not saying dress like a nun.  You can still show skin without showing “too much”.   For first dates, it’s always better to leave just enough curiosity.  You’ll increase your chances of getting a second date.   
 

See.  That wasn’t so hard now was it?  Now go get dressed!  

(Credits: Image by shellygrrl)