What Women Want

By Magic

Women are not looking for a specific personality in a man and each woman is attracted to different, ever-evolving qualities. Just like women, men go through different phases where the type of woman to whom they are attracted changes. Attraction to body type, hair, personality, features, etc. changes. Many men, including myself, have varying definitions on what is attractive in a woman. One day I may be into a blonde; the next a brunette. I may desire large breasts, long legs, or a curvy shape. On some days there isn‘t a particular preference and every person goes through these natural changes.

Women experience the same evolution. One day she may want a skinny rocker, the next a body builder. She may want a man with a wild side in her twenties and become more attracted to a conservative personality in her thirties.

Do not build your personality based upon what you think is attractive to the opposite sex. You should be yourself, do what makes you feel good, and do what you like. Your looks and personality should be for you and should match what‘s inside you, be infused with what allows you to meet your personal goals –called congruence. Incongruence –the opposite of congruence –is a sign of insecurity and a complete turn off for women. It is guaranteed that there will be many women attracted to your body and personality type. Be comfortable in your skin and the women will follow.

However there are certain traits that spark attraction in women. There are the traits that every Casanova possesses. You do not have to possess all of these traits but try to incorporate as many as you can without completely altering your lifestyle. This will make seduction much easy.

Here is the list of some very important traits that attract women:

• Confidence
• Exceptional grooming
• Humor
• Humility
• Being a challenge
• Creativity
• Boldness
• Thoughtful
• Laid back
• Social
• Positive Attitude

If you could incorporate these traits in your lifestyle and display without being too obvious, you will successfully turn on women’s attraction switches.

(Credits: Image by Niccolò Caranti)

Sole Searching: How to use shoes to attract the opposite sex

By Scherry Momin

Never underestimate the power of shoes.  Shoes will definitely make or break an outfit, but even more importantly, shoes can either attract or repulse the opposite sex.  No seriously.  I look at someone’s shoes and use it to determine whether or not I want to talk to them.   Bad shoes are almost as unsexy as pulling out a Motorola Razor at the bar hoping to get someone’s number.  How uncivilized.  

Here is some insight on how to use shoes to mesmerize the opposite sex.  

Women:

First of all, the notion that flat shoes are more comfortable than heels is a bunch of hodgepodge.  Flat shoes don’t equate to comfort.  I can’t count the number of times that flat shoes have given me some super annoying blisters.   I do like flat shoes.  I really do.  But let’s face it.  They are just not as sexy as heels.  Take this example.  I was recently at a video game launch party where I observed this very attractive girl wearing what seemed to be a very bad version of some kind of vintage prom dress.  Usually, a straight guy wouldn’t notice the pure fashion fail.  But what he would notice is that she was wearing it with tennis shoes.  It hurt my eyes just to look at.  Moreover, it was extremely difficult for me to resist the urge to slap her.  I tried to look at the horror again after paying several visits to the open bar.  My conclusion: even beer goggles aren’t able to cover up the pure unsexiness of bad shoes.       

I don’t understand what’s up with all of the heelophobia.   Walking comfortably in high heels is not some kind of natural talent that only a handful of us were blessed with – it’s a learned skill.  With practice and picking the right type of heels, they can actually be comfortable!  I hope you realize that you’re getting sexier by just reading this.       

Wearing high heels properly can make you stand so that your legs look longer and slimmer and your stomach flatter.  Plus it’ll do wonders for your derriere.   If you’re new to wearing high heels, start small and work your way on up – but know when too high is too high.  If you’ve never worn heels before, do not try to step into five inch stilettos.  You may very well look like you’ve spent a night or two in prison when you try to walk in them.  Instead, start with a low broad heel.  Broad heels are not sexy, so I recommend starting with a low wedge.  You’ll look more modern and less matronly that way.  This will help you train your feet and develop your ankles so that you can withstand higher heels and walk gracefully (and safely) in them.   

Once you think you can start wearing stilettos, you can try this neat trick to see if your feet are ready.  Stand in your heels with your knees straight and raise your toes.  If you can’t raise yourself one inch from the heel of your shoes, then they are much too tall – but don’t worry.  You’ll get there eventually.    Take small steps to start.  It’s just like learning how to walk for the first time.  Putting the weight on balls of your feet will feel more natural and force your weight to shift forward in a natural way.  So put your heels down first.   Also keep your legs closed and your toes pointed forward.  Now just keep practicing.  Wear high heels in your house and learn how to turn and pivot.  You can also buy gel padding to put on the toe part of your shoes from a local drugstore.  They will make your transition into heels much more comfortable.     

Now, just a little warning.  These types of shoes are OUT girls: pointy toed pumps and peep toed slingbacks.   Do not try to bring them back.  Trust me, it’s too early.  Instead, go for a mary-jane pump or gladiator wedge.   

Picking the right type of shoe for your foot is key.  You spend a good amount of your life on your feet, so invest accordingly.  In my personal experience, I’ve found Italian made heels to be consistently the most comfortable and most durable.  The great thing about nice shoes is that you can get them re-soled and re-heeled, so you don’t have to keep replacing your shoes.     

Time to go get heel-ed up.  Pretty soon men (and trannys) will start drooling over you.  If the latter happens, then you know you’ve become a black belt heel wearer!   

Men:

Shoes are important for you too.  Women will look at your shoes.  So let me break it down for you.  Hopefully this will help you bring some sexy back.   

Ah.  The shoe-pant dilemma.  How do you pick shoes that look halfway decent with the bottom of your pants?  Pants that bunch up above the shoe are a total buzz kill.  Do not let this happen.   Half of the battle is not buying pants that are too long.  Just resist the urge.  Plus, baggy pants are not only out, but they’re unflattering.  The thug-grunge thing is 90s/early 2000s.    If you buy designer denim that needs to be hemmed, make sure you take the shoes you plan to wear with them to the tailor.  The pant should fall nicely on shoe.  The other half of the battle is not buying overly wide shoes.  Do not buy shoes that are wider than your physique.  If you’re tall and skinny, wear skinny shoes.  If you’re on the hefty side, get to the gym.  Just kidding, although that may not be too bad of an idea.  If you’re on the hefty side, or have a wider than normal foot, or just want to make your foot look shorter, choose a shoe with an opening closer to the toes.  This will make your feet look much smaller.  If you want to make your foot look longer, do the opposite.  Pick a shoe with an opening closer to the heel.   This will elongate your foot and possibly make it look slimmer.      

Since large, wide leg pants are out, your shoes will be exposed.  The most important thing about men’s shoes – more so than being “fashionable” is that they MUST be clean.  I see guys rolling up with some dirty ass shoes and it makes me wonder about their lifestyle.  Even if you’re a slob at home, you can easily hide it by wearing clean shoes.  See?  It fixes everything.    

If you’re a sneaker junkie, you’re pretty effing sweet.  Sneakers will never go out of style and can be a great window into your personality.  So wear them, but just make sure they’re clean.   Just a helpful cleaning tip for sneakers.  After every wear, wipe them down with some Windex on a paper towel.  This will keep them clean and spankin’ new looking.    

With these simple, and easy to follow tips, you will definitely get one step closer to finding your sole-mate.  Good luck!

(Credits: Image by Nikita Kashner)