It’s Not About The Frequency

By Damon Brown

We’re often pressured to fuck. I don’t mean in a violent, forced way, but in a subtle, societal way. There are the racy print ads and porn star TV shows and whatever, whatever, but the real pressure comes from others and, more importantly, from ourselves. 

Like we touched on a few weeks ago with the Vanilla Is Still Sexy post vanilla-is-still-tasty, your sex life should be reflective of you – of your cycles, your ideas and your body. 

Let’s say you haven’t been laid in a minute, perhaps because you’ve been focusing on other things, perhaps because you just haven’t been horny. The common belief is that there is a) something wrong with you, b) you’re doing something wrong or c) you’re in some form of grieving. The problem with this train of thought is that it assumes that your life isn’t good enough. The assumption is that your life needs to be “fixed”. The question really is, if you are happy with the amount of times you have sex, which may be twice a day or once a year, why do things need to change? 

Your very best sex life is the one that makes you and, ideally, your partner or partners happy. Masturbating once a day is a sex life. Making love with the hubby once a week is a sex life. Making out without intercourse can be a sex life, too. Define your own sex life. 

(Credits: Image by eyesogreen)

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