Other People Can Screw Up Your Sex Life

By Damon Brown

Our Samantha Scholfield did a great post on Facebook Flirting 101

facebook-flirting-101 and it made me think of the reasons why we do some things publicly and other things privately. Why post on someone’s wall or respond to his or her Twitter versus sending them a private email or text? It depends on what we want from the person – and what we want from other people, too. Not being real about this can screw up your sex life, or lack there of.

Think about the many reasons why we would have sex with someone: 

*You are attracted to them

*They are nice to you

*You don’t want the night to end

It’s cool because it actually has to do with your potential partner. Now think about the many reasons why we would have sex that has nothing to do with our lover: 

*You want to get over an ex

*You want someone else to get jealous

*You want bragging rights tomorrow, so you have to seal the deal

Most of us have a story about angry sex or awkward sex or whatever, but even in those situations sex is best when all people involved are honest about why they are doing it. The problems happen when it eventually comes out why you were doing it in the first place – and the person getting hurt the most could be you.

(Credits: Image by: Ted Percival)