November 2010
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365/24/7 Halloween
By Samantha Scholfield Halloween is my favorite holiday, as it is for a lot of people. Besides the spooky factor, the candy and the ubiquitous availability of pumpkin lattes, it’s a night (or day, or weekend) that gives us all a pass to be anyone we want. We can show off our cleverness with a costume that makes everyone around us think “Why didn’t I think of that?” ...
October 2010
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Perceptions and Reality Checks
By Samantha Scholfield
I went to my ten-year high school reunion this last weekend, and had a great time - a fantastic time. I also never expected to write that sentence and mean it. High school had its golden moments, but for the most part, I would wake up everyday praying to a God I don’t believe in to make it go faster so that I could graduate and get to college, where life would...
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Flying Solo Wins
By Samantha Scholfield Think about the last time you fell into one of those random but awesome conversations with someone: maybe it was at the coffee shop, the bookstore, at the farmer’s market or at happy hour. Chances are good that both you and the random-conversation-someone were both cruising solo (or at least were temporarily separated from your respective groups.) This is...
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Why Coffee Shops Rock
By Samantha Scholfield I have a theory: Coffee shops may be the new bars, in terms of finding your next date. My job requires me to write for several hours a day, and so coffee shops are my office. There are lots of others who also call my office their office, both during the daylight hours and at night. My favorite coffee shop has several community tables, and conversation abounds when we...
September 2010
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Anniversary Determination
By Samantha Scholfield
For the coupled up who aren’t married, what event marks the beginning of our relationships (and the date of which determines our anniversaries)? Is it the first date? The first sexual encounter? The DTR talk ? The first “I love you” day?
If you were friends or knew each other for a period of time before you actually started dating, do you...
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Friends First
By Samantha Scholfield When trying to figure out if those you meet online, in person and at Jimmy’s rager of a party last weekend are long-term relationship compatible, one question that I think gets overlooked in the “Definitely” vs. “Not sure” debate is whether or not you would be friends with this person if you took away the sexual component of your relationship. ...
August 2010
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Want to meet someone? Leave the house.
By Samantha Scholfield A total “duh” answer, I know, so bear with me: this is one that crops up again and again even among those of us who swear we go out ALL THE TIME. Lethargy, feeling disenchanted with the whole dating scene and being just plain tired of trying, all sit securely in the “there’s no point, so why try” cheering camp. Before we know it, we’ve...
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Happy and Tenacious Wins the Race
By Samantha Scholfield (I’ve been running (okay… jogging) a lot recently, so please bear with my dating-as-a-footrace metaphor.) Dating, if your goal is to find a long-term, awesome-for-you someone, isn’t a sprint-until-you-hurl situation. It’s way more a jog/run/walk ultra-marathon that will take a lot out of you in effort, but for which the end result is worth it. (Not...
July 2010
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Fallon No Longer This Creepy
By Blake Townsley
Howdy folks, and welcome to the weekend. The more astute among my readers will notice that the heat of summer has brought a more irregular schedule to these musings on pop culture, which is a shame because there’s a lot to talk about lately. Let’s dive in, shall we? I was going to start off with a discussion of Lindsay Lohan’s jail stint, or Mel Gibson’s audio recordings, but...
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Facebook Relationship Status = Dating Free Zone
By Samantha Scholfield Changing one’s Facebook relationship status seems like an innocent enough thing to do…Until you realize that you’re announcing that status of your sex life to not only your 500 closest friends (some of whom you haven’t spoken to since 4th grade), but also various judging family members, voyeuristic co-workers and “It’s complicated”...
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Stoked About Getting Dumped
By Samantha Scholfield We all fall into one of two categories: the dumpers and the dumpees. There is some overlap, but most of us have a preference when it comes to ending a relationship, fling, or changing the status of “friends with benefits” to “just friends”. The dumpers are the people who dump before they can get dumped, or — more nicely put — they are...
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God Is Women
By Jackie Summers ‘God gave men two heads, but only enough blood to run one of them at a time.’
~~Robin Williams The phrase ‘it’s funny because it’s true’ was never more apt than when applied to the words above. More complex than any supercomputer on earth, the number of synaptic connections in the average human brain outnumbers the total number of stars in the universe. In addition to...
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Elvis Has left the Building
By Blake Townsley
Howdy folks, and happy Friday. As a few of you may have noticed, the regularly scheduled update from last week was skipped in favor of an early holiday weekend in mosquito heaven. But I’m back, a few pints lighter, and fired up to discuss the monumental week we just had.
First up, the impressive news that Lindsay Lohan is going to jail for violating her probation. I’d guess...
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Facebook Flirting
By Magic
Even before I start typing I need to apologize because this blog is going to be a long one. When I started on the path to succeed in the dating world I had no idea what to expect. Truthfully, I had serious doubts if I would ever succeed with women. Years have passed and now I rarely think of that time. But once in a while I’m reminded of where I started from and where I am...
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Should a Woman Ask a Man Out?
By Jackie Summers
Legend has it that Cleopatra introduced herself to Julius Caesar by having herself rolled up into a carpet that was then unfurled at the Roman emperor’s feet. Her bold antics brought the gala affair to a screeching halt; when she arose scantily clothed before this young ruler he was thoroughly unstrung. The most powerful man on earth was instantly smitten.
While...
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Eff the Fear
By Samantha Scholfield I spent this last weekend at various parties and one very fun beer festival (as you do when the 4th creates a three-day weekend). Because I’m a dating writer and coach, the subject of dating inevitably comes up in conversation and so, much of my weekend was spent (happily) listening to the dating issues faced by both sexes. I heard lots of the normal “I never...
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Whatever Turns You On
By Damon Brown
What makes your toes curl, your eyes widen into saucers or tighten down in anticipation, and your lips quiver? I love plenty of mental and emotional stimulation, but when it comes to the physical, one of my favorite body areas is the notch right above a woman’s hip. The little curves just ask to be kissed, bitten and adored. The pair can keep my attention for a long, long time. I...
June 2010
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Time Efficiency
By Samantha Scholfield Continuing with the theme of dating multiples from last week, today I’m going to dive into a subject that only the hyper-organized multiples-dater ever even deals with: What is the maximum number of date slots available in one weekend? There are several factors to consider: How adept at schedule-keeping are you? How much free time do you want during the weekend to...
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2010625 SCRAM!
By Blake Townsley
Due to the World Cup, Blake Townsley has taken the day off from his regular duties, but has promised us that he’ll return for next week’s regularly scheduled blog. In his stead, PickV.com is proud to present his replacement for the week, guest blogger SCRAM Bracelet #26349, better known as the Lohan alcohol monitoring bracelet.
Hey. So I guess I’m supposed to fill in for...
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Learn From Your Teenage Self
By Damon Brown
Remember when you were 15? Sex was this strange, mysterious event that could be considered a right of passage, a way to get your rocks off or just a scary idea in general. Even those of us who were already sexually active were still trying to figure things out.
There is a certain comfort in knowing what you like. I know what turns me on and, perhaps more importantly, what...
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5 Steps to Dating Like a SuperWoman
By Jackie Summers
You’re intelligent. You’re ambitious. You combine charisma and character, and command respect, all in your four inch stilettos. You can deflect BS off your magic bracelets, leap tall douche-bags in a single bound, and never lose your femininity. You’re a SuperWoman, you’re spectacular, and you’re single.
Okay, maybe that part about the magic...
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How to Handle Multiples
By Samantha Scholfield
Although dating multiple people at one time has become a much more accepted route with the popularity of online dating (and therefore the necessity of meeting each person you might have a connection with in person to see if there’s anything there), there seem to be a lot of differing opinions and questions about it: - Do you fully disclose how many dates you have...
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The Biggest Myths Of Pick Up Part-2
By Magic
Last week I mentioned few myths of pickup community. I could continue with the list but I guess it is time to move on.
In this post, I’m going to reveal a few things you should start using right away to skyrocket your success with women.
I know no one is interested to practice the general stuff or work on areas of life that are not directly related to pick up skills. As a...
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My beef with Kobe
By Blake Townsley
Howdy folks. Welcome to Friday, and a world where the Kardashian sisters are hitting .667 in dating/marrying world champion athletes after Lamar Odom and the rest of the Kobeonettes helped Kobe Bryant win his fifth championship. A world where that average would rise to .750 if there was a World Series of Douchebaggery for Kourtney’s impregnator to compete in.
Snark...
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Reach Out and Touch Someone
By Damon Brown
I’m spending my last of several days nerding out at the Electronic Entertainment Expo @browndamon, the big, often decadent playground with lots of free booze, semi-sexy presenter attire and, well, video games. The big deal here is the Microsoft Kinect , an XBox 360 add-on that let’s you control the screen with your body. No controllers necessary. You know where...
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Are Women Who F*ck on the First Date Slutty?
By Jackie Summers
Before I respond to the question du jour, let me make this perfectly clear: I am not pro-feminist. I’m anti-bullshit, which in my mind means requiring adults of both genders to own responsibility for their behavior, sexual and otherwise. As I’ve already devoted at least a thousand words to the question of whether women who fuck on the first date are sluts, this...
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Myths Of Pick Up Part 1
By Magic
I recently spoke at a Dating Conference in New York. After the conference lot of student came to me for discussion and I realized that there are lot people who are victims of “Pick Up Myths”. I decided to address this once and for all.
In this two part news letter I will first discuss ten myths that you need to ignore. Then I will hand you a list certain components that you need to...
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Online Date Fail: How to Handle It
By Samantha Scholfield
Sometimes — even when the chemistry online is so hot any other outcome but life-long bliss seems impossible — when you meet said online profile in person, it can be a there’s-no-way-this-would-ever-work-out disaster. This isn’t anyone’s fault. The Internet can only give us so many hints about whether or not we’ll be compatible,...
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Phriday Phish Phry
By Blake Townsley
Howdy folks. It’s a pretty busy Friday here in Chicago, as you may have heard. Or probably not, since I’m guessing not too many of you are big hockey fans. So for those of you that aren’t, and even those who already know, the Chicago Blackhawks won the Stanley Cup on Wednesday in Philadelphia. Kind of a big deal since, like most Chicago sports teams, the Blackhawks had the...
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What’s My Favorite Word?
By Damon Brown
Is there another activity that has more euphemisms than sex? Masturbation alone has more politically correct terms than a presidential campaign. Add in intercourse, oral sex and other activities, and I’m surprised we don’t carry around a dictionary to figure out what our new partners want.
There are countless folks that argue this is a problem with our society: The more...
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F&$# the "Should"
By Samantha Scholfield
Our very own brilliant Damon Brown wrote a fantastic post last week about not being pressured into thinking your sex life should be something, when if it makes you and your partner happy it’s great as is. I’m going to continue on that same theme and argue that the same theory applies to dating. There’s so much “should” propaganda out...
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Do Men Only Want Sex?
By Jackie Summers
In today’s discourse, we’re going to address an age old question: do men only want sex?
The answer (yes) seems too obvious to warrant an entire essay. So, let’s rephrase: do men only want one thing?
No. Usually we want at least two, maybe three things, depending on how freaky you are. And then, we’d like a sandwich, please.
All kidding aside, all men go...
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Saturday Night Live Feverish
By Blake Townsley
Howdy folks, and welcome back to Friday. Sure has been a rough couple of weeks for celebrities, huh? In the last two weeks we’ve lost Gary Coleman, Rue McClanahan, Dennis Hopper and Ronnie James Dio. It’s been quite a shakeup in the standings of my annual celebrity death pool. If John Wooden passes this week, we’ll have had two new leaders in two weeks with a little more...
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It’s Not About The Frequency
By Damon Brown
We’re often pressured to fuck. I don’t mean in a violent, forced way, but in a subtle, societal way. There are the racy print ads and porn star TV shows and whatever, whatever, but the real pressure comes from others and, more importantly, from ourselves.
Like we touched on a few weeks ago with the Vanilla Is Still Sexy post vanilla-is-still-tasty, your sex life should be...
May 2010
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The DTR
By Samantha Scholfield
The DTR (“Define the Relationship”): that necessary but nervous-sweat-inducing conversation that every couple must have (besides perhaps an arranged marriage). How many dates must pass before the talk? What’s the best way to do it? What if they’re not feeling the same way and the DTR causes a premature end to your (or their) live-in-the-now happiness?
When to...
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How to Please Women in Bed
By Magic
Women love good sex. In fact most women will stay in a bad relationship if the sex is good but will walk away if sexually unsatisfied. Most men do not understand sexual needs of women. This is exactly the reason why we have studies which show that a small percent of men end up having sex with the majority of women. To be one of the few men you must learn how to please a women in...
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A Guys Guide to Surviving Sex and The City 2
By Blake Townsley
Howdy, friends, and happy Memorial Day Weekend to all of you. I’m hoping everyone’s getting ready for the official start of summer, and planning on getting out there and safely enjoying yourselves. Unfortunately, I think that too many guys out there are unknowingly headed towards a catastrophic disaster of a weekend, and I want to take some time to warn y’all before it’s too...
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Other People Can Screw Up Your Sex Life
By Damon Brown
Our Samantha Scholfield did a great post on Facebook Flirting 101
facebook-flirting-101 and it made me think of the reasons why we do some things publicly and other things privately. Why post on someone’s wall or respond to his or her Twitter versus sending them a private email or text? It depends on what we want from the person – and what we want from other people, too. Not...
Cruisin' For Love on Your Entertainment Hub
Pickv.com is the place to find love based on your favorites. To make finding love even easier, and because we love you…our users…we just launched a really cool new pop-up feature! Any time you rollover a favorite on the site, you’ll get a nifty little pop-up that gathers data about that favorite from all over the Web!
Like The Beatles? Now whenever you rollover The Beatles on...
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World Peace, Part 3
By Jackie Summers
The true man wants two things: danger and play. For that reason he wants woman, as the most dangerous plaything~~Friedrich Nietzsche
If this is true, women are the ultimate weapon. We shouldn’t be bombing the fuck out of our enemies, we should be fucking the bomb out of them. Strategy dictates the best way to defeat an adversary is to make them a friend; can you think of a...
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Facebook Flirting 101
By Samantha Scholfield
Facebook isn’t the college reunion it was five years ago, where privacy was tighter than a spandex leotard and you could post just about anything without fear that a picture of you pole-dancing at that one party in college would surface during a job interview ten years later. Now it’s a free-for-all, highly visible, real-time accounting of our lives — both...
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World Peace, Part 2
By Jackie Summers
The great question that has never been answered and which I have not yet been able to answer, …is ‘What does a woman want?~~Sigmund Freud
For starters, how about being loved for who they are, accepted for who they are not, and mind-bending, body wrenching, soul-searching sex?
And shoes. Fabulous shoes.
It can’t be that simple, can it?
Of course not. The complexities of...
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Traits Of A Real Man!
By Magic
When I started learning how to attract women for myself, I used to focus on “techniques” and “tricks”.
As I started to learn more, I began to realize that “Inner Game” was actually more important than my “Outer Game”.
I know you have heard me say this many times.
The woman who trained me said something and INSTANTLY I had a BIG...
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MACGRUBER!
By Blake Townsley
Howdy folks, and welcome to the Friday pop culture roundup. This week, I’m here to talk about my favorite movie of 2010. Or at least, I’m assuming it will be once I actually see it. You see, I’ve totally bought in to the MacGruber hype. For the first time in my life, I believe everything being said by people who are handsomely rewarded when the movie does well: writers,...
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Play Dumb To Be a Good Lover
By Damon Brown
Few things push my hot button more than the following phrase:
“I’m good in bed.”
What exactly does that mean? You already know what turns me on? GTFOH. You already lost in my book. The statement is as blanket and as inaccurate as a Cosmo headline, like “69 Things That Will Drive Him Wild In Bed”. Maybe your lover doesn’t want ice rubbed on his ass or to...
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DATING AND SEX
By Lisa Skye Carle There are many “pros” and “cons” about having sex with people you are dating. I’d like to throw out a few “pros” and “cons” to stir up a conversation.
“Pros” :
sex is often really HOT with someone new
it’s good to know if you are sexually compatible before committing to a relationship
just thinking about the possibility of sex with a new partner is very exciting
...
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Tired of Bars? 5 Daytime Alternatives that Rock
By Samantha Scholfield
When most of us think about “going out” with the intention of meeting our next night-o-fun/date/fling/relationship, we think of a bar. Sometimes the bar takes the form of a club with a giant dance floor and the vodka red-bull flows like water, sometimes it takes the form of a dart board/draft beer/pool table low-key meat market, and sometimes it’s populated by bitchy...
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World Peace, Part 1
By Jackie Summers
Some men know that a light touch of the tongue, running from a woman’s toes to her ears, lingering in the softest way possible in various places in between, given often enough and sincerely enough, would add immeasurably to world peace.~~Marianne Williamson
If that’s true, imagine what a great fuck would do.
I (want to) believe in love, and I definitely believe in great...
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It Is Ok To Be A Man
By Magic
Last week I went to Las Vegas with a couple friends to celebrate my birthday. We went to the bar at MGM hotel to meet women. There was this one particular woman who was having her bachelorette party. One of my friends started talking to her and later called me to join the group.
I started teasing the bride to be and in no time she was totally attracted to me. She was chasing me and...